http://www.michelenovotni.com/blog Tue, 15 Dec 2009 18:15:10 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en A woman asks: "I'm a 48-year-old married woman and I have trouble being around large crowds. I would rather be alone, and there are times that I don't answer the door if people—even my children—visit." Michele answers: You say that you have a lot of trouble being around large crowds but I'm not ... http://www.michelenovotni.com/blog/2009/leave-me-alone/ Some one asks: "I am 54 and was recently diagnosed with ADD. My problem is that I'm unable to look people in the eye when I talk to them. How can I improve this character flaw?" Michele answers: Many people have difficulties with eye contact, which is not a character flaw, but rather ... http://www.michelenovotni.com/blog/2009/eye-contact/ How you can restore friendships that really matter. Are you missing old friends—people you once loved to talk to and spend time with, but with whom you’ve lost touch? What went wrong? Maybe they moved away. Maybe your interests diverged. Or maybe you said or did something that drove them away. ... http://www.michelenovotni.com/blog/2009/renew-three-friendships/ Find yourself quarreling with colleagues? Follow these ground rules for getting along with others. Always look for win-win ideas. Make sure the proposals you offer and the positions you take are in alignment with the company's values and priorities. Before proposing a potentially controversial idea at a large meeting, test the waters by meeting ... http://www.michelenovotni.com/blog/2009/avoiding-fights-on-the-job/ A mother asks: "I have a son with ADHD who is 9 years old. He prefers to play with girls instead of boys. He seems to fight with boys and act as a caretaker for girls. Is this another symptom of his condition?" Michele answers: AD/HD does not in itself cause children to ... http://www.michelenovotni.com/blog/2009/playmates-and-friends/ Q: "I'm 42, single, have no children, and live alone. Because I have had difficulty with conversations most of my life, I am shunned by family members and co-workers. What can I do?" Michele answers: Sometimes it is not what we say, but the way we say it that matters most. Personally I ... http://www.michelenovotni.com/blog/2009/conversational-difficulties-in-adults/ Five proven expert strategies for battling ADD-related defeatism and negative thinking. Depression is common among people with attention deficit disorder (ADD ADHD). In fact, people with ADD are three times more likely than non-ADDers to be depressed. It’s easy to understand why; you’re unlikely to feel good about yourself if forgetfulness ... http://www.michelenovotni.com/blog/2009/how-to-stop-defeatist-thinking/ SW in NJ asks: I'm 42, single, no children, and live alone. Because I have difficulty with conversations most of my life, I am shunned by family members and coworkers. My opinions don't seem to count, though many times people say, "I should have listened to you." What do I do ... http://www.michelenovotni.com/blog/2009/conversational-difficulties/ An adult with ADHD asks: I am almost 42 years old and I struggle so much with relationships. It seems as if my brain just shuts off and nothing will come out. I enjoy being with people but not being able to relate (just hold a simple conversation) is so hard. ... http://www.michelenovotni.com/blog/2009/struggles-with-relationships/ Simple ADHD time management tips and strategies to procrastinate less at home and on the job. We all procrastinate. Unfortunately, folks with attention deficit disorder (ADD ADHD) procrastinate more than others. Although it seems harmless, procrastination causes conflict in personal and professional relationships. When we fail to complete tasks on time, ... http://www.michelenovotni.com/blog/2009/stop-procrastinating/