How can you prove to others that your ADD behaviors and symptoms are not your choice but rather the cause of A.D.D.?
If your behaviors of concern are AD/HD related due to impulsivity, hyperactivity and/or inattention, it is important to educate the people you are concerned about regarding AD/HD. Many people still have misconceptions and as a result attribute AD/HD related behaviors to character flaws. I love the title of the book, You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! because those are often the tags attached to AD/HD behavior for those who lack an understanding.
Begin by having a discussion with people regarding AD/HD and what impact that has on your life, so they can begin to understand your behaviors through new eyes. Sometimes, people are helped to understand AD/HD by reading a brief (1-2 page) article. Some AD/HD websites have a nice selection of short articles. A number of these websites are linked to ADDitude website under resources. Finally there are numerous books on both child and adult AD/HD, which are helpful in gaining a better understanding of the disorder. The ADD Warehouse, also linked to the ADDitude site, carries a very comprehensive listing of books for both child and adult AD/HD. As with any prejudice, information and education are often the beginning of healing and opening up the pathways for communication.
Michele Novotni, Ph.D., is a psychologist and coach in private practice in Wayne, Pennsylvania.
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